Children have never been very good at listening to their elders,
but they have never failed to imitate them.
- James Baldwin
I like to think that my child is well behaved, but I'd be lying if I didn't think that there are areas where we can improve. I think there are many aspects of parenting that you just learn along the way. Before I became a mom I'm sure there was a list of things I said I would never or always do. As the years have passed by, some of that is true, some of it is now laughable. However, there is one thing I have learned that is time tested and true. As a parent, you are responsible for modeling behavior and setting expectations for your child. It seems very easy to blame television, movies, video games and playmates for bad manners. When do we as parents take responsibility for our children's actions? And how do we encourage our children to take responsibility for their behavior?
In "Parenting the QBQ Way", John G. Miller challenges us to just that. In 38 bite sized chapters, parents are introduced to QBQ, the question behind the question. John presents a shift in the way we think about the issues of parenting by asking different questions. For example, instead of asking your child why their room is always a mess, ask yourself what can you do to teach them better habits about maintaining their personal space. How are you modeling that for your child and what practices can you put into place for him or her to make it a part of their daily routine?
Reading this book was a complete light bulb moment for me as some of the issues presented in the book were things I've experienced with my son. I have realized that I have to do a better job of modeling for my son. As the only parent in the home, I'm all he sees. And the old saying of "do as I say, not as I do", doesn't work in my home. My son is incredibly smart and has no problem calling me out when I'm doing something I'm not supposed to.
Parenting the QBQ Way discusses parenting techniques that are applicable to children from preschool to college. He even includes great lessons on how to talk to your children about money, which is a big deal in my home. All of this is helping our children become self sufficient and caring adults.
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Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of Parenting the QBQ Way for the purpose of this review. All opinions are 100% my own.