However, over the years I have learned the value in having friends who have children. There is something about being able to share the frustrations and joys of my son's perfectionist, obsession with Legos, and weird eating habits. Talking to another mom about bedtime routines, cleaning schedules and diets gone wrong as we watch our children play an intricate game during a neighborhood block party. Dare I say that motherhood is a special club? Our roles are what bind us.
Once my son entered Kindergarten I was thrust into the world of play dates. Honestly, he had never had one before Kindergarten and suddenly it was a hot buzz word in our house.
"When am I going to have a playdate?"
"Can I have a playdate with [name of new best friend]?"
Since God has a sense of humor He paired an extrovert (my son) with an introvert (me) and sent us on our way to schedule play dates. Last year I was able to pick my son up from school a few times each week. It gave me a chance to
It all started with a mom walking up to me and simply saying, "Hi! Are you [insert name of cool kid you don't mind influencing your kid] mom?" And so it began. I had finally entered the world of play dates, for my kid and me.
Reflecting on this reminds me of what I'm reading in Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson's Desperate,
God made us for community and accountability and close friendship...young moms were never meant to be without the advice and care of multiple women assisting them and advising them in their lives.I couldn't agree more.
As my son was invited on play dates and birthday parties I would push myself a little to reach out to the moms. To share my story and listen to theirs. Making friends and building a community as an adult doesn't have to be hard. Like everything else in life it requires intentionality. A simple invitation to be a part of a community where we can assist and advise one another. And laugh, must have laughter.
So here's to nurturing my son's friendships and my own.